She had traits of anxiety for as long as she remembers - but this amplified majorly after her first divorce. She would go days and days feeling anxious and over time this led to her having panic attacks every few days.
She did multiple techniques and approaches to calm herself down and overtime this did reduce - but it never resolved fully. Over the next few years - she got into another relationship and then that was about to end as well…
That’s when all of this came back with full force. She would get panic attacks almost every night. She was tired of being this person … Her family would feel bad and helpless looking at her. That’s when she decided to resolve this for the rest of life and decided to approach us…
The key one for her was an extreme fear of being alone. She had this thing where when she was with a partner - she would feel like superwoman and being alone would take her into some very deep unresourceful zones.
While this fear was a constant - it would amplify and become uncontrollable for her to handle whenever she would sense a relationship about to end or someone moving far away. This was not true just for her partner but for all her loved ones.
We did a couple of NLP procedures for her to not have these states, thoughts, beliefs etc.
Apart from this, we also interrupted multiple states of overthinking, worrying about the future, regret for the past, feeling insufficient and insecure and so on.
Through her journey of the first two cycles of evolution, the panic attacks had stopped fully and anxiety had reduced by 90%. But we didn’t stop there - because we knew that it wasn’t complete. And if we left her now - there was a possibility this pattern would repeat itself.
In her case, anxiety was not just an unresourceful state but also a signal from her neurology and she needed to address it.
We made a specific capability list for her to build parallel eco systems in her life for her to thrive and enjoy. This would allow her to not become dependent on any one relationship and continue or grow, enjoy and evolve with her kind of people.
Her panic attacks stopped completely! She would wake up fresh & happy, do her work with more focus, more efficiency and be more productive.
In fact, in her journey itself, two instances happened in her life where her older self would have definitely gone into extreme anxiety and panic mode again…
1. Her ex husband met her to tell her that he is getting married again
2. Her ex boyfriend asked to meet her in the US just as friends (and they did meet a couple times when was visiting the States)
AND BOTH TIMES - she was just fine. She did not feel anxious, upset, depressed or sat. Just moved on easily…
She also went for a Scuba diving trip with a bunch of her friends. After the dive was over - everyone started talking about the challenges and the difficulty they faced during that experience.
She looked confused and then said “This was in fact one of the best dives I have ever had, what are you guys talking about?” The instructor also looked impressed and further validated it by saying “I am surprised with the oxygen level that you used in this dive. With your level of experience and level of complexity of the dive - I would have expected you to use at least 50% more than what you have used.”
P.S: The more stressed a person gets, the more oxygen he/she uses.
That’s not it - she even got a promotion (with a 30% hike) that she did not even expect in that year. The company was so thrilled with her performance that they gave it to her even when she did not ask for one and neither was due for one).